How going for an interview is like dating

Niamh McCarthy 10.02.2018

We all know how nerve racking it can be going on a first date but isn’t the feeling very similar to your first interview?

Wouldn’t it be great to see the similarities between both? 

1. The initial nervousness

You open the door with butterflies in your stomach, you don’t know what to expect. You arrived 10 minutes early, being late wouldn’t look great but you don’t want to appear too eager either. 

2. The research

The interview:

  • Check out their website and read news articles about them.
  • Look into your wardrobe for corporate wear.
  • Check out your interviewer on Linkedin and Twitter to see what they’re talking about.
  • Ask a recruiter for interview advice.
  • See if the office is in a nice area or not.
The date:
  • You ask some friends what they’re like?        
  • Look into your wardrobe what’s going to make a statement?    
  • Check them out on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter….not like a stalker but just to be prepared.
  • You haven’t dated in a while so you need lots of dating advice from an expert.
  • Look into where you’re meeting them, if it’s expensive they mean business if it’s not….well we’ll see. 

3. What happens in the middle? 

You’re greeted at the door and led to your seat. Here it is, the moment you’ve been waiting for. Here’s where the date and interview collide again:
  • You’re going to do a lot of talking so make sure you have some water.
  • You may be nervous (it’s your first date/interview in years) but try to be yourself.
  • Don’t appear too eager because that’ll only scare them off, there’s a fine line between enthusiasm and desperation.
  • You want to see what they’re like too so ask some questions.
  • It’s good to find something you both have in common, this will help build a connection and allow the conversation to flow better.

4.  If you don’t feel the spark

In the first 5-10 minutes you’ll have a fair idea as to whether you like them or not.  Always trust your instincts. The last thing you want is to do is start dating/working with them for the next few years because you think they’re the best you can get but you’ve a better opportunity only around the corner.
 

5. The follow-up call

If they really like you they’ll call you soon afterwards but if you have to wait a long time either they’re too busy or they’re just not that into you. What do you think of this and what are your interview comparisons?
 
Think you know everything there is to know to have a telephone interview? If not check out my colleague's article Hidden Tips to Pass that Telephone Interview.
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